conclusion2 - YOUR LOVE

Conclusion 2 - Doubt in one of the partners about feeling (part 2)

You or your partner has come to the conclusion that there is doubt about the deeper feelings for the other person. There is no more passion in the relationship and the question is whether there is still a ‘fire’ burning. This does not mean that you should hate each other or cannot love each other. The question is: ‘How can the doubting partner feel if there is still feeling?

To explore feelings, a relationship time-out is suggested. This may sound heavy for the partner with feelings, but it is a very nice way to really know if there is still feeling in the doubting partner. Only after a time-out can you draw a new conclusion.

Relationship time-out

We have worked out what the relationship time-out entails and how you can give substance to it. It is up to you and your partner to give substance to this. During the relationship time-out some rules apply, which both partners have to abide by out of respect for each other.

Time-out duration

How long a relationship time-out lasts is impossible to say beforehand. Consultation times are held at regular intervals. It is important that the partner with feelings does not push the doubting partner. This will only make the time-out last longer.

After the time-out

The outcome of a time-out can go either way. You want to continue together (conclusion 1), one of the partners has no feeling anymore (conclusion 4) or both partners realize that there is no feeling anymore (conclusion 5). Regardless of what the conclusion is, you will get more clarity.

Action:

Be honest with your partner and yourself
Give yourself and your partner the time to feel
Don’t push, this is counterproductive

Working on yourself

You have gained insight into yourself, your partner and your relationship in the first 13 steps. During the relationship time-out you also have opportunities to work on yourself whether you have doubts or not. Breaking through behavior patterns you can try to do on your own or with the advice of a relationship coach. You do this mainly for yourself and not because it is expected of you or imposed upon you.