conclusion5 - YOUR LOVE

Conclusion 5 - Both no longer feel (part 2)

All the previous steps, possibly a relationship time-out, have made it clear that there is no longer any feeling for each other. This is not to say that you should hate each other or cannot love each other. The passion is out of the relationship and it has become, at best, a “brother sister” or good friendship relationship.

Practice shows that feeling what is gone does not come back. Feeling is not makeable and a silent hope that it is leads to frustration and possibly even depression.

What now?

As partners, you cannot hold each other hostage in a relationship and according to the law, no one has to remain in undivided love. If one of the two partners is not happy in the relationship, then he or she has the freedom to take a different path. It is an emotional period for both, which can be compared to grieving.

Relationship ending

It is nice towards the future if you can end the relationship in a mature way. In doing so, tears will probably flow, but remaining unhappy in a relationship will only lead to more unhappiness. Being happy is a choice. If you need help to end the relationship in a serene way, you can opt for divorce mediation. This focuses on the needs of both partners and, if applicable, the children. All practical and financial matters are discussed.

Action:

Be honest with your partner and yourself
Grant each other happiness in this life

Work on yourself

Breaking your behavior patterns can be done with the help of a psychotherapist. Learning new patterns of behavior takes time! It is an enrichment for you as a person and a gift to yourself. And when you are ready for a new relationship, you will not make the same ‘mistakes’ again.