Breaking patterns (part 3)
In the recognition (part 1) and acknowledgement (part 2) phases you have identified all kinds of points that need attention. You want to build a loving intimate relationship. You do this by breaking through patterns and solving problems.
As a result, you will express your feelings more, listen to each other better and control emotions more. In addition, you make efforts to have more fun with each other and address deeper issues.
Loving intimate relationship
Intimacy in a loving relationship comes from a balance of trust, attention and tension. Communication serves as the lubricant and partner love is the energy. Building your relationship never stops!
Focus areas
Insights
During the first 13 steps, elements have emerged that need improvement. The idea is that you will work on these.
You are going to discover that all areas of focus are interrelated and contribute to the balance to achieve the desired loving intimate relationship.
Partner conversation
By scheduling a monthly partner conversation you will gain insight into the progress of your relationship. It is always an open and honest conversation at level 4 and 5. Preferably on neutral ground. After a year you will experience that you enjoy the conversations, so you continue to build on your relationship.
Action:
- Make an overview for yourself with your personal work points and areas of attention within the relationship. If you run into limitations in the work points for yourself, a psychotherapist can often help you further.
- Agree with your partner which area of attention has priority and both of you go deeper into it during the period before the next partner conference.
- Plan a partner conference with your partner and at the end of the conference plan the next one. If you feel the need, you can bring in a relationship coach to guide your partner conversations.
From this overview you can select an area of interest to delve into where there is currently a need. We have put communication first, because 86% of the issues arise here.
Communication
Trust
Attention
Tension
Intimacy
Happiness
- Starting point
- Step 1 – Attachment
- Step 2 – Emotion regulation
- Step 3 – Communication – love languages
- Step 4 – Verbal communication
- Step 5 – Dealing with critisism
- Step 6 – Dealing with conflict
- Step 7 – Intimacy
- Step 8 – Personal development
- Step 9 – Self-Care, Self-Love and Self-respect
- Step 10 – Reflection
- Step 11 – Preparation
- Step 12 – Partner conversation
- Step 13 – Conclusion