Online Couples Therapy

"Developed by experienced couples therapists"

Online Couples Therapy from Your Love helps solve your relationship problems.

For only $179 you get one year of unlimited online couples therapy.

‘After therapy, 83.6% continues TOGETHER‘

Why online couples therapy?

The fights, lies, infidelity, negativity, disrespect, aggression, the lack of understanding, lack of affection and intimacy or drudgery, you are completely done with it. Something needs to change in your relationship. Your Love’s online couples therapy can help.

Clarity through couples therapy

You can follow Your Love’s online couples therapy independently. Step by step it will become clear ‘IF’ a ‘SAME’ is (still) possible and ‘HOW’ you can achieve this.

Questions about couples therapy

If you have any questions while in therapy, you can ask your coach.

Prefer guidance from coach

In addition to therapy, it is possible to go through one or more steps together or individually under the guidance of your coach. Engaging your coach can be done right from the start or after going through one or more steps.

The fee for the online conversations with your coach is $125 per conversation of up to 1.5 hours. You settle this directly with your coach.

Starting with online couples therapy

It starts with ordering the couples therapy. After payment you will receive a login code and the contact information of your coach within 5 minutes. With this information, you can start the couples therapy right away.

Reviews

Our relationship was a fine stable relationship. We did many things together and we complemented each other. Still, even in good relationships there are always things you can work on. So too with us. Online Couples Therapy is the perfect therapy to do this. At your own pace and whenever you want. By going through the different steps you will gain insight into yourself and your relationship.

Never thought we would ever do couples therapy and certainly not online. We don't need something like that we thought, but this therapy has helped us move forward. It doesn't take you that long and it's not expensive. So never say "never" to relationship therapy and this one from Your Love is the salvation of our marriage!

With the help of Your Love's online couples therapy, we are doing much better now. We notice it in everything. We have decided to move forward together. We definitely recommend the therapy because it has helped us tremendously. It has a nice line in the build-up: from nothing to something. I found the online modules very valuable. All that gave an even better insight.

To give one last chance to our relationship, my partner and I participated in the online program. It was a positive experience, but unfortunately it did not save us anymore. During the process, we encountered certain issues that made us realize that it really was no longer salvageable between us. It is safe to say that it was not because of the program but rather because of our toxic relationship. It is unfortunate, but nevertheless, I want to thank the people behind your relationship therapy for all the effort, and for our last honest chance at a beautiful relationship.

Your Love's online couples therapy has made us think and communicate in a different way. We learned, that communication is very important in a relationship. The therapy has strengthened our connection as love partners. We recommend everyone to give it a try as well.

In the lesbian community, it is not very pronounced to just go to a couples therapist. It almost feels like a shame thing because women are generally good at maintaining social bonds. When my girlfriend and I signed up with you, we actually did so mainly because we didn't want to be spotted at a couples therapist. On top of just being able to undertake this on the couch together, it was also much better than we could ever imagine. How happy we are with our choice for your therapy and the coaching we received. Highly recommended!

I wanted to make sure that my girlfriend was happy with me again and that I could understand her better. We had been in a rut for a while, and I could already tell by looking at her. One day she told me it couldn't go on like this any longer. At that point I started looking for a way to save our relationship. With the help of our coach, we worked very hard on ourselves and on our relationship. It was nice to see that at some point this paid off. She eventually decided to stay and we are now expecting our first child.

Dear Coaches at Your Love, Thank you so much for the wonderful online therapy and your guidance. Without this online therapy our relationship would no longer exist. I can recommend it to everyone, there is no better online therapy. Greetings, Petra and Sandra

I ordered the online program. At first I followed the therapy alone, but later Jef became curious about it too. We were good friends with each other, though. But we were missing "something. And as is common to think that with time all relationships lose passion, we too thought this was something, which we had to accept. Without the therapy, we were still living in frustration and destructive behavior. You know you can feel something, but it doesn't happen to the person you care about. But that's not how it has to be. Sometimes I still look back in my notes and am glad I took the first step.

With demons in my head, I actually sought my pleasure in recent years mainly outside the door. This put pressure on our relationship, and fortunately my wife was still able to forgive me. I am so grateful for the last chance she gave me. We went through Your Love's couples therapy together and made sure we were happy together again. Glad to read here that more people have also experienced this, and I hope that a lot of couples with potential will follow.

Results of online couples therapy

The outcome of couples therapy has three possible outcomes. You believe in each other and want to address the pain points in order to build a lasting, loving, intimate relationship from a healthy foundation. A relationship where the balance of trust, attention and tension allows intimacy to grow (83.6% of couples).

Whatever the outcome, you have learned a lot about yourself. The insights are “building blocks” for a happy life, because you too are entitled to happiness!

When no more together is possible, you know you have done everything you can. Ultimately, two options remain, a respectful “marriage of convenience” or divorce.

Questions and Answers

Over the years, we have had many questions about online couples therapy. The answers to the questions will give you an insight into how Your Love’s online couples therapy works and background.

Future is couples therapy online?

The future of couples therapy is online, Covid has shown. Your Love’s online couples therapy is central to this as a guide, even for professionals. Being online makes couples therapy more sustainable, more flexible, cheaper and more powerful.

More powerful comes primarily because the partners actively engage in couples therapy at times when they can fully focus. This creates more depth and insight into their own and the partner’s functioning within the relationship.

Where is the origin of Your Love's online couples therapy?

Your Love’s couples therapy is based on methodologies such as EFT, CBCT and IBCT supplemented by consciousness insights. Due to policy changes at health insurance companies, relationship problems as a primary complaint are no longer reimbursed. Thus, the need arose for an affordable couples therapy that is accessible to all.

According to experts, Your Love’s online couples therapy is the most complete and affordable alternative to the much more expensive traditional couples therapies. Online couples therapy costs only 10% of an average traditional couples therapy.

Comparison to traditional couple therapy

Traditional couples therapy starts from an intake interview followed by joint and individual sessions with the couples therapist. Home exercises and regular conversations with the couples therapist are part of traditional couples therapy.

EFT as a couples therapy focuses on emotions and feelings to explore and, where possible, resolve relationship problems. EFT is less suitable for relationships where communication or psychological problems are underlying. For this, elements from cognitive behavioral therapy (CBCT and IBCT) and mindful thinking have been added.

EFT = Emotionally Focused Therapy
CBCT = Cognitive Behavioral Couple Therapy
IBCT = Integrative Behavioral Couple Therapy

Is online couples therapy a threat to the traditional couples therapist?

You can use Your Love’s online couples therapy without the need for a couples therapist. Worldwide, there are more couples in need of couples therapy than there are couples therapists. Apart from the fact that Your Love’s online couples therapy is real therapy, it contains a common thread.

Traditional relationship coaches are increasingly using Your Love’s online couples therapy as a guide to pass along to their clients. The great benefit is that online couples therapy allows clients to clearly articulate where the origin of the relationship problems are, what the background is and how they think they can address it.

Why do traditional couples therapists choose Your Love's online couples therapy?

As a couples therapiast you may choose to have only a few conversations with your clients where you primarily listen. If, as a relationship coach, you want to have a greater impact on the success of a relationship, then referring to Your Love’s online couples therapy is a logical step.

What is the basic idea behind Your Love's online couples therapy?

The ultimate thing Your Love’s online couples therapy aims to achieve is to create an intimate loving relationship in which both partners feel loved, valued and respected.

How do you get a loving intimate relationship?

The scientific approach is that there is a balance of trust, attention and tension that creates intimacy. The critical success factor is communication.

What is Your Love's approach like?

Online couples therapy lets both partners look at themselves first. Where am I coming from, what do I want, what do I expect from my partner and from my relationship? This is based on the idea that both partners are willing to take a critical look at themselves as well.

By working on themselves, they are building their relationship!

Why do good relationships begin with yourself?

Why is it just not because of the other person? Many people hope or expect the other person to change because “then our relationship will get better.” Only that other person often doesn’t change. You have little influence on that, but you do have influence on yourself. Through self-knowledge and self-insight (including your blind spots) you automatically improve your relationships with others.

If you look closely, you will see that relationships always go well when there is little direction. In other words, there is no need to change the other person. You accept the other person and can be yourself at the same time. In difficult relationships, there is always steering. One of the partners wants to keep the other partner small, impose the will, change, hold back or control.

More explanation of the loving intimate relationship?

The question “How do you get a loving intimate relationship?” explained the balance between trust, attention and tension which leads to intimacy. That all sounds nice, but what does it mean concretely? In the following questions, we explore this in more detail.

What is the effect of tension?

Tension in a relationship that works well refers to positive and negative tension. Positive tension can arise when you are attractive to each other. Negative tension can arise when distance arises, because you take care of yourself or when you are not comfortable in your own skin. This is not always fun for your partner, but it is essential for you to remain yourself (authentic).

You start a relationship because you somehow have something to offer each other. Your partner-to-be has something you find attractive and this is also true the other way around. These are often multiple traits.

Attraction

When you find someone attractive, you almost automatically pay attention to that person. This attention then causes you to listen carefully to each other and try to solve problems you encounter. This grows trust in each other, which in turn is attractive. The positive tension this creates is the driver of a relationship. So it is important to be and remain attractive to each other.

Attractiveness changes over the years, which is highly dependent on your stage of life. Attractiveness gives a perception of partner feeling which is also called connection.

No stress

In addition to being attractive to each other, it is important that both partners are not stressed and are comfortable in their own skin. This requires relaxation. A relaxed and laid-back partner springs along, while a stressed partner often creates negative tension in the relationship.

The tension that occurs because you sometimes clash with your partner does not have to be negative if both partners accept that this can occur from time to time with the emphasis on “from time to time. If there are frequent conflicts, it makes sense to deal with them. A little distance can cause the built-up tension to ease back a bit. This can be seen that partners can take care of their own happiness and not depend on the partner for this.

More explanation about attention?

By attention we mean sincere attention. The attention for each other has mainly to do with the feeling that you are there for each other and therefore that there is genuine interest in each other. You feel that you come first with each other, although sometimes issues can arise here if children are part of the relationship. A mother will usually always put her children first.

Deeper

To pay deeper attention to each other, you need to stop and sincerely listen to each other.

Deeper attention is found, for example, in looking at each other to confirm that you have really seen each other, touching to let each other know that you are there for each other, smiling to make things lighter for each other, listening carefully to show that you are not alone, asking through to help each other further and all the other things you do to show each other that you see and appreciate each other. You do this through verbal and nonverbal cues.

You do this by talking, but also by using body language. What matters is the quality of the moments together and not the quantity of attention.

Sincere attention within the relationship usually ensures that you enjoy being together and this also fuels partner love.

More explanation of trust?

When talking to adults about trust within a relationship, people often think about not cheating. This contributes to mutual trust, but when there is trust in the relationship, it goes much further. For example:

Being able and daring to express negative feelings even to each other;
Being able and daring to be angry with each other from time to time;
Being able to step back or not be so nice for a while, without far-reaching consequences;
Being able and daring to indicate what you need so that your boundaries are and remain clear.

How long does couples therapy last?

How long couples therapy takes depends a lot on how important you think it is. If you really want to go for it, then spend more time saving your relationship. For example, one couple may be completely happy after 3 months and another may still not have a clear understanding of where the problems are after a year.

Actually, couples therapy never stops as long as a relationship lasts. Is it necessary to order online couples therapy each time? No, during therapy you take notes that you can read back.

Does online couples therapy always make sense?

Online couples therapy is the solution for 83.6% of couples to move forward with each other. Even in couples where one of the partners was skeptical or negative at first.

After a timeout

Have you broken up and after some time there is the desire of both partners to continue together? Then it is highly recommended to first follow the online couples therapy.

Couples therapy helps prevent, that you fall back into old negative interaction patterns, which again can lead to a breakup.